Trust is the foundation on which marriage is built and when it is broken by Infidelity, it stays broken. A partner may forgive, but that painful knowledge will remain in the mind of the affected party. They would not let down their guard, fearing a repeat. For others, it is easier to forgive than to forget. Trusting your partner and getting hurt is bad enough. Who wants to leave anything to chance? It is common for an offended spouse to put up barriers of protection.
Suspicion and doubt are very common among the spouses when infidelity has been discovered. Distrust is like a safety net to diminish the pain if cheating reoccurs. On the flipside, it is definitely possible to trust again, but it typically does not occur easily or quickly.
Infidelity does not only affect marriage. Cheaters destabilize relationships with children, friends, and close family members. If discovered, the family of the cheat might suffer from the agony, humiliation, and gossip in the community. Such a scandal tends to lower the integrity of the whole family in the community. Young individuals considering marriage may lose respect for the union as a result of rampant infidelity.
Children, habitually the most affected victims, suffer the disaffection of a parent from the family. Many children hurt silently and, too frequently, fault themselves. Occasionally the ordeal rolls over into their lives in various forms of dysfunctions in their own families. It is abundantly clear that the cheating pair and the guiltless spouse are not the only ones to bear the repercussions of infidelity. Counseling may be crucial at this point in time, but most families will not consider it as they do not want to address the issue.
The blow-back of infidelity can be permanent and may forever change one’s perception of relationships and life. Another relationship or marriage may also not survive due to the aftermath stemming from the former marriage if the offended spouse has not completely healed.
Disaffection of Family, Friends, and Others
Some family, friends, and others may not readily socialize with the cheat because they have sided with the innocent spouse. Still, others will have misgivings about the cheat around their own spouses or partners owing to their illicit repute. The cheat may also risk being omitted or not allowed in certain social settings, which is an indication of disrespect.
Severe Consequences of Infidelity
Most times cheats think that they can mend the harm they have caused to their marriage when their illicit activities are discovered by their spouses. They often presume that all they need to do is to get their spouse to forgive them. Of course, it is a possibility, but that may not always be the case. Some of the consequences of infidelity can be severe and permanent in a marriage, home, and family after cheating is discovered.
Below are a few of such consequences;
- broken trust
- Dysfunctional family
- Low self-esteem
- Severe depression
- Defamation of character
- Financial malfeasance changes
- Contraction of STD’s
- Children out of wedlock
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Infidelity is not acceptable in a marriage or any relationship, and excuses are not satisfactory. The consequences are disturbing for all involved, particularly for the hurt partner and children. Even the cheat has to suffer the negative penalties for their bad choices. They may be estranged from family and friends.
It is imperative that every victim understands that no matter how embarrassed they feel, they are not accountable for the infidelity of their partner. Even the cheats should see themselves as worthy enough of a relationship that does not involve them running around in the shadows sneaking and slinking around.