You have finally got the job of your dreams, you are loving what you do, your co-workers are amazing but your boss is unbearable. He is the embodiment of micromanagement, and regardless of putting in your best, you are just not able to get along for reasons you cannot tell and hence cannot have the sort of constructive employee-supervisor rapport you had hoped to have.
If this scenario echoes your situation, don’t fret much. You should know that you are not the first person to ever have issues with your boss. There are several people who are searching for jobs just to get away from annoying and unbearable bosses. In fact, most people do not leave their organizations, they leave their bosses.
There are actually various steps you can take to improve your relationship with your boss, or, at least, make things bearable by smoothing things over.
Evaluate the situation
What is your level of accountability for the dented relationship or is your boss a genuine bad ass and have an undesirable rapport with everyone else at work. Try to evaluate the situation and find out if your boss attitude towards you is something personal. Analyze the situation and understand if you have a part to play in the whole mess. If you are guilty of being a causative factor to the damaging situation in some way, own up and deal with it. Overlooking it will only worsen the situation.
Consider the issues your boss may be grappling with, either personally or professionally, that may be contributing factors interact with to how their employees. Are they always worried about tight goals and deadlines? Do they also have a tough boss themselves? If you are cool doing so and the right opening arises, it helps to ask your boss to open up about the pressure they are under and what obligations they have to meet. Trying to understand their situation will give you a clearer picture about their actions and understand why they act the way they do.
The best approach in such a scenario is to be open and honest when communicating at work. However, in such a situation, it is best to speak only when absolutely necessary about the issue. Speaking out of turn may cause more havoc than good and completely ruin the already strained relationship.
So, speak carefully, and note down your exchanges with your boss. Keep track of the situation and document your interactions and if the situation does escalate at some point, you have shielded yourself from blame. A vital point to note is to that you need to stay results focused.
Never vent to your colleagues
In such a situation, it is normal to fell frustrated and worn out. Normally you would open up to others about what is going to get it off your chest. These people may help you to provide a different angle to the situation and even offer valuable advice on how to proceed. However, it is best if none of these people are your colleagues. Colleagues may end compounding the problem if they cannot keep the discussion among themselves. Do not complicate things.
Don’t burn bridges
Try as much as possible to never burn a bridge. You never know when you will run into your boss or when you may need their help. In many cases when you move on to anew job to escape the difficult situation, your new employer may ask of a recommendation letter. If you are hesitant to produce this, your new employer may see that as red flag and consider you a possible risk. Never leave on a bad note in order not to endanger your career.
Transfer is an option
If you work in a large company that has other openings, try to find other openings on a team that is not overseen by your current boss. This is a quiet, great, subtle way of getting a new boss without leaving the company or have an obdurate conversation with human resources about your boss’s conduct.
Occasionally, it is just not worth it if you are unhappy. There is in fact indications that employees who form a strong bond with their bosses are more engaged at work. So, contingent on the situation, your poor rapport with your boss could be affecting you professionally, not to mention the strain it adds to your daily work life.
In the end, only you will identify the best way to deal with the situation. Be honest with yourself. Is all the tension and strain of the situation worth it? Is it upsetting your work? Or is the adverse relationship just a negligible downside to a job that you absolutely love? Take your time and analyze all angles before making any hasty decisions about how to deal with the situation. No one warrants abuse at work, and if you do have to jump ship, your ideal job is out there, one that will come with gratifying work and a constructive, caring boss.